Is self LOVE inherent or environmental? Nature or nurture? From my observations of myself and others I was born happy but I was raised by a very unhappy mother. She had zero self-esteem nor any self Love. No one had taught her to value herself and she could not pass those lessons onto me so I had learn on my own. One significant lesson that really started the self love journey was that I WAS RESPONSIBLE FOR MY OWN HAPPINESS. As my life journey has spanned 6 decades I have also learned that my happiness did not come from external things or expectations of others, it came from within.