When I was a teenager all I heard from my Mom was ranting: “Me, Myself & I”, that is all you ever think about. Well it stuck and I went to the extreme of self sacrificing myself for others happiness so that no one could ever accuse me of selfishness. It took a long time to figure out the difference. Self Love is having a healthy respect and reverence for your worth and value as a unique human being. Selfishness is tunnel vision and closed heart to all others. If your heart is closed it will shrivel and die.